Is There Really No Manual to Life?

Finding the Way in a Confusing World

Beloved Friend,

Happy New Month!

I couldn’t let this moment pass without being among the very first to say it. It’s the last month of the year—December! Can you believe it? I know the year may not have gone exactly as you hoped, or maybe it exceeded your wildest expectations. Whichever it is, we’re here, alive, and stepping into the month that wraps it all up. Isn’t that something to be grateful for?

So here’s my prayer for you: May this December bring clarity, peace, and joy. May it be a time of reflection, preparation, and celebration for the year ahead. And above all, may we end 2024 walking even closer with God, aligned with His purpose, and filled with His love.

Now back to what’s been on my heart this week…

This week, I found myself in yet another conversation that seems to be on repeat with so many people. It’s like everyone has a version of it, a remix, if you will. The conversation? “There’s no manual to life.”

At first, it sounds like one of those catchy one-liners that people throw around to make themselves feel better about their decisions. You know, like, “YOLO” or “We move”. But when you think about it, isn’t it wild how much weight that statement carries? I mean, people aren’t just saying it for vibes; it comes from a place of deep frustration. It’s the lament of someone who feels like they’ve done everything right, obeyed every rule, followed every instruction, and still ended up with nothing but disappointment. Meanwhile, someone who seemingly “wings it” appears to have it all figured out.

You’ve heard it too, haven’t you? Phrases like, “Good girl no dey pay” or “What if my patient dog finally dies of hunger?” The world keeps telling us to loosen up, stop being so uptight, and just “live.” And honestly, I get it. Sometimes, it feels like doing things God’s way isn’t yielding any tangible results. But does that mean the Bible, our so-called manual for life, is outdated? Or worse, irrelevant?

Let’s pause for a moment. Is there really no manual for life?

First off, let’s not act like the Bible is just some old, dusty book. This isn’t your grandma’s photo album. The Bible is timeless. It touches on everything; marriage, parenting, work, life’s struggles, you name it. In fact, when people say there’s no manual for life, I think what they’re really asking is, “Can I trust this ancient book in today’s evolving world?”

The answer? Absolutely. God’s standard hasn’t changed, and it never will. Malachi 3:6 says, “I am the Lord, I change not.” Society may shift, trends may come and go, but the principles of God’s Word remain steadfast. His instructions aren’t suggestions; they’re the very foundation for abundant life (John 10:10).

Now, let’s talk about rewards because I know this is where it gets tricky. Yes, the Bible promises blessings for obedience. But does that mean we’re entitled to see every reward here and now? Not necessarily. Hebrews 11:39-40 reminds us of the heroes of faith; men and women who obeyed God but didn’t receive the full promise in their lifetime. Were their lives wasted? Far from it. Their obedience pleased God, and their stories continue to inspire generations.

Take Apostle Paul, for example. God refused to remove his “thorn in the flesh” (2 Corinthians 12:7-9), not because He wanted Paul to suffer, but to remind him that “My grace is sufficient for you.” Similarly, in Jeremiah 29:11, God declares, “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Yet this promise came while the Israelites were in exile, a reminder that God’s plans often require patience and trust.

Here’s the thing: we were created for His glory, not ours (Isaiah 43:7). Our lives aren’t about fulfilling our desires but His. And I know that’s hard to swallow in a world that preaches selfishness. We want immediate results, instant gratification, and recognition for our efforts. But God calls us to a higher standard. He’s raising a generation of selfless believers who find joy in simply walking in obedience, whether or not the results align with their expectations.

Obedience to God isn’t without reward, but the greatest reward is Him—His presence, His peace, and the knowledge that we’re fulfilling our purpose. So, when the world tells you to “stop overspiritualizing things,” remember that the Word of God and His timely instructions are our true guide. Whether it’s a verse that leaps off the page, a quiet witness in your heart, or wise counsel from a like-minded friend, God has given us everything we need to navigate this life.

Beloved, let’s not grow weary in doing good. Let’s not allow frustration to lead us to compromise or rebellion. Even when it feels like obedience isn’t paying off, trust that God is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).

Oh, and before I sign off, let me encourage you to share this with someone. Think of that friend you’ve had this exact conversation with, the one who’s felt the sting of disappointment or wondered if obedience is worth it. Or maybe it’s that colleague who believes the Bible doesn’t have answers for modern life. Let’s spark conversations that bring light and hope.

I’d love to hear your thoughts too. Have you ever struggled with feeling like obedience wasn’t worth it? Or experienced moments where trusting God’s manual didn’t seem to “work”? Let’s share and grow together.

With thoughts of kindness,

ABBA’s Shofar